Honesty is more important than feeling good all the time.
Asking for what we need is being honest but it is also hard a lot of times.
Calling our partner out is not easy but it is being honest.
Expressing how we truly feel is honest but it can be really tough.
Telling the truth (honesty) can set you free but it is not easy.
If honesty is so important why is it so hard to do?
Because we are afraid of hurting the other person’s feelings.
If a healthy partnership is about supporting each other and being there for one another, then you want to help each other grow.
You and your partner cannot grow if you don’t call each other out on your BS.
The last person you want to be fake with is your partner. You want to be honest with your partner and you want to let them know what you think, how you feel, and when you can.
“The last person you want to censor yourself with if your significant other” – Mark Manson
Without conflict, there wouldn’t be trust. You want each other to grow. You want the other person to grow too. When you are honest even though it’s not what the other person wants to hear, then you are someone that they can trust, believe, and value.
Trust is important in relationships. Support only when you want to not when you’re being forced to. That only harbors resentment.
You can ask for what you need and if they can’t do it, it’s not personal. They’re being honest.
In a healthy relationship, you need to be able to say no and accept no. No one trusts a “yes” man. You need something to stand up for. If your partner doesn’t allow you to have your own beliefs, then that’s manipulation.
So in your relationship, when you want your partner’s opinions or thoughts on the matter, then be ready to accept their honest feedback and feelings about it.
Conflict in relationships is healthy because it allows people to have conversations and to be more curious about each other. You can also learn more about your partner and you can help each other grow to be better together.