An empathetic person understands human behavior.
Empathy can only occur when we have self-acceptance. Yup!
It’s only by accepting our flaws – our own emotional, physical and mental flaws can we be able to accept other people’s flaws without judgment or hate and feel compassion instead.
Empathy is a choice. 100%
It is not about fixing things. It is about being with someone in that pain.
Not comparing losses or pains (or what you would do if you were in their shoes). But being in the pain with them. Like really being there. Not trying to understand or saying, “I don’t get it” or asking “Why did they do that?” It is about accepting their circumstances without shame, guilt or judgment.
Empathy is not going in the hole with them. Nope!
You make a connection and you build trust. Be a learner and ask, “How come?” or “What happened?”. You don’t judge. You try to understand by letting them communicate their feelings. Then ask how you can help or what you can do to relieve the pain.
**Being empathetic is not easy. Not everyone can practice this skill on a regular basis. It takes a lot of self-awareness and self-reflection to be able to not judge, shame, blame or guilt other people. An empathetic person understands human nature. They want to know the reason why and they don’t assume. They don’t take things personally. They are present. And they don’t attach themselves to the outcome.***