“We get our first lesson in self-care from the way that we are cared for. Self regulation depends largely on how we interacted with our caregivers. Children whose parents are reliable sources of comfort and strength have a lifetime advantage – a king buffer against the worst that fate can hand them.” – Vessel Van Derkolk
Our child within is expressive, assertive and creative. We need to feel affection, we need guidance, we need nurturing, we need support. As children, we need to play and have fun. If we were nurtured growing up then we would know how to love ourselves and judge ourselves less.
“Taking care of yourself emotionally isn’t a sign of weakness. People who didn’t deal with their emotions show their weakness. And taking care of your emotions is good business.” – Paul Diamond
The message here is, take care of yourself. If it’s hard to give yourself permission to do that for the sake of healing and restoration, know that taking care of yourself is also one of the strongest strategic moves you can make.
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Our first and last love is self-love.
- Find out what activities bring you joy in your life
- Find out what you value the most
- Find out what you are passionate about
- Find out what drives you
- Find out what people love about you
Then do them!