Being aware of our thoughts and feelings can help us grow.
“A self-aware person has insights into how they are coming across. They hold themselves accountable when they make mistakes, hurt someone’s feelings, they’re not perfect, etc. They don’t shame or blame others for their flaws.
The unaware person is the opposite.”
Emotions become overwhelming when we bottle them up. Most people think that when they bury their feelings and not talk about their emotions, it will just disappear. Most people also believe that if they ignore their feelings then they are tougher than those who express their feelings.
There are also people who express their feelings all the time. Whether their reactions can cause pain or hurt, damage or negative outcome, they just had to express themselves. These people think that they are entitled to criticize, point out flaws, show anger and disappointment or complain all the time.
So where do you find the right balance of expressing your feelings “productively”?
It takes a lot of mindfulness.
A lot of people want to get better, but they don’t want to change. They want to grow but they don’t want to be vulnerable. People love to complain about other people, instead of taking accountability. A lot of people take things personally, instead of letting things go.
HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO BETTER HANDLE YOUR EMOTIONS:
- PAUSE – breathe
- FEEL – identify the feeling. Is it anger, sadness, disgust, fear, joy, anxiety?
- INVESTIGATE – ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this?”
- CHANGE PERSPECTIVE – let go of what you cannot control (people), let go of what you cannot change (people), look at what you can control (your thoughts and actions).
- BE IN THE HERE AND NOW – refocus on the present moment and make feeling joyful a priority.
You always find what you are looking for. Train your brain to look for the good and don’t feel comfortable in chaos, fear, anxiety, anger or sadness. Due to our past experiences, we do become familiar with situations that bring chaos, anger, fear, anxiety, anger, and sadness that we subconsciously end up in the same “bad” situations.
Let me help you process your past so you can live in the present and learn how to train your brain to change its’ perspective.